Scarier than ghosts…is a narcissistic boss!
On this day of joyful celebration of the spooky festival of Halloween, there are still many people around the world who are getting goosebumps with creatures that are sometimes scarier than ghosts, which are ‘bosses’. And the type of boss we are talking about today is a boss with Narcissistic Personality.
So how do we know if our boss is a narcissist? Here are some key behaviors to look out for:
- Power-mad
The position of a boss that is suppressed makes the egomaniac feel the power in his hands to control and order everything as he wishes, which sometimes leads to the แทงบอล UFABET ราคาดีที่สุด ไม่มีขั้นต่ำ abuse of power.
- No compassion
Narcissistic bosses tend to lack empathy for others. When there are problems within the organization, they tend to be self-centered and disregard the reality or feelings of their subordinates.
- Hungry for the spotlight
Being praised is something that Narcissistic leaders enjoy the most. The more attention or recognition from others, the more successful they feel.
- Ego is higher than the universe
Because we always believe that we are better and superior than others, it is almost impossible to accept criticism. Simply put, the world revolves around us.
- Jealous, can’t stand seeing others being better than you.
Narcissistic leaders often believe that others are in competition with them, and at the same time feel envious of others’ success, leading them to feel the need to compete with others all the time.
- Pressure, attack to make feel inferior
The pressure in the form of a Narcissistic boss is mostly through words that make people feel bad, pressured, sarcastic. Sometimes it may be in the form of setting goals that are too high. And when the subordinates do not meet them, they will use their weaknesses to attack them. Making them feel bad until they lose their confidence and self-worth.
When we start to feel like we are nervous, stressed, worthless, useless, no matter what we say. It seems like no one listens, hopeless, discouraged as if there is no way out. To the point where we start to question, “What is the point of living with these things?”. Then it is a dangerous sign that indicates that we are falling prey to a boss who is a self-centered person.
One quick way to deal with a narcissistic boss is to accept that you can’t change him. So confronting him directly is not the best solution.
Ask yourself, “Is it worth staying here?” If the answer is that we still want to stay to develop our skills and grow in our career, what we should do is to ‘open up’ to people we can trust and be a safe space.
In this case, we can talk to Human Resources to talk about the problem and find a solution together. Another good way is to see a mental health professional to heal your heart and prevent serious consequences in the future.
If after weighing it. It is worth it to get out of the situation. Then step out without feeling guilty because our value in life is not tied to what anyone says. Our value in life does not decrease the day we do not meet our goals.
Our lives are worth more than anything can measure.
Just as there are no perfect people in this world, there are no perfect bosses in the workplace. We all have both advantages and disadvantages. But one thing that we as humans should do is to know how to have empathy for each other, and always be aware of our own actions. Because in the end, no human being wants to be hurt in any way.
On a day when the world is cruel to us, we must be kind to ourselves. Don’t let those who have hurt us forget what they have done and come back to hurt us and those around us who love us with all our hearts again.